About this site

Why did I create this site?

Have you ever wondered how to live with an autistic child? Hi, my name is Adel. I am happily married and a Registered Nurse by profession. I am about my siteblessed with two beautiful children. My youngest is a girl and my eldest is a boy who was diagnosed with ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) at the age of 5.

I created this site to help parents find ways to cope with all the stresses and strains of raising an autistic child. I speak as a parent. I know how it feels having to raise a child who can hardly communicate or doesn’t have the capacity to speak at all.

My son, John did not speak until the age of 3. If he wanted something he would take my hand and point to the item he wanted. I tried to encourage him to express his wishes by telling me what he wanted, but he simply could not. He could not even look me in the eye when I talked to him. As his mother, it is indescribably painful to see him unable to utter any word except ‘Mama’ and ‘Dada’. All behavior that is normal for children his age is simply not within of his constitution.

After a while, his unusual behavior led us to seek medical help. A Paediatrician, a Speech and Language Therapist, a Play Therapist, and an Occupational Therapist saw him. They assessed him and diagnosed Autism. As can be imagined, my heart broke for John when I was informed, and our world turned upside down. All dreams of his growing up independently and securing a good job vanished in an instant. This was just the beginning of our heartbreaking journey.

On my site, you will read about my experiences and:

    • How I found ways to help my son develop his communication and social skills.
    • How he was able to develop his coordination and improve his fine motor skills.
    • How he was able to discover that he is different from other children his age.
    • What makes him special and
    • The ways I was able to turn his innate abilities into a talent that will enable him to partake in this world.

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My Mission

 189525-300x300-Autism-Clipart-4Approximately 1% of the world population has Autistic Spectrum Disorder (CDC,2014) Not a worldwide concern but it is getting a lot of public attention nowadays.

There is no cure for Autism. The best one can do is to inform the public of ways to help autistic children. These avenues are early communication, social interaction, occupational therapy, behavioral and nutritional management.

Furthermore, the inborn abilities that they do have, need to be encouraged and developed and focused upon. Such abilities are a definite means of their possible contribution to society and the creation of a happy and independent life.

My mission is to help others by sharing my journey on how to cope with the demands of raising an autistic child.

My mission is to use my experience to assist others.

My mission is to provide you with resources and information on products that might prove beneficial to you and your child.

 “So, let us help each other in spreading public awareness that, Autism is not a disease nor a disability. It is a special gift that your child has been given and it is up to us, as parents to turn this gift into a special talent that could change this world for the better!”

Join me in my journey and witness how I was able to help my son to be the person that he is now. The journey starts here!



Email me: adel@livingwithanautisticchild.com

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48 thoughts on “About this site

  1. Hi, I have just been told that my grandson is autistic and I’m so frustrated coz I don’t understand his situation and today he climbs on a tv stand and fell luckily he was not injured by the tv and was broken .im working and there is somebody looking after him at home while my daughter is looking for job. do we need someone who is professional to look after him . his only 4 years old
    thanking u
    worried granny

    1. Hi, there! I know how you feel at this moment upon learning that your grandson has autism. I felt the same way the moment the doctor told me that my son has autism. I felt helpless and don’t know what to do but with the help of the people who have seen and supported my son ( his paediatrician, speech and language therapist, play and occupational therapist, educational psychologist) and with the love, patience and understanding from me, my family and my friends, my son was able to progress and is already on his way towards gaining personal independence. Yes, your grandson might need professional help from a speech and language therapist if your grandson finds it hard to communicate and express his needs and the help of an occupational therapist if your grandson has sensorimotor issues. You have to accept and understand your grandson as he is and to give all the love and support that he needs. This https://livingwithanautisticchild.com/understanding-sensory-processing-issues-children-autism might help you to gain a better understanding of his behaviour and in order to help him to control his behaviour and improve his concentration and attention span, you might want to read, https://livingwithanautisticchild.com/improving-concentration. Providing https://livingwithanautisticchild.com/recreational-activities,will help him with his sensory issues.
      Hope these links will help you gain a better understanding of what autism is and how it affects your grandson in his everyday life. All the best to you and your grandson!- Adel 🙂

  2. Hi, Adel.

    I work as a clinical psychologist. Sometimes, I do meet parents of autistic kids in my office. What you talk about on your blog is the truth. You talk the talk of parents. Some subjects can’t be learned at universities. Only the experienced person can teach them.

    Thanks for sharing your experience. I will refer some of my clients to your site without a doubt.

    Best Regards

    Jean-François Boivin
    Clinical Psychologist

    1. Hi, Jean. Thank you for finding my site as a useful resource for your clients. I hope that your clients will benefit a lot from the early interventions that I have applied to my son when he was still little and the different strategies and approaches that myself and my son’s school are doing to enable him to gain personal independence.
      Wish you all the best in all that you do to help autistic children! 🙂

  3. Hi Adel,
    I understand what you are going through. My son has autism. While a toddler, my son was diagnosed with full blown autism. Which later because of something I read in a magazine and tested with a doctor, became just Aspergers syndrome. Here is my story:

    When John, my son, was young I found a Parent’s magazine article about how dairy products and sometimes gluten products can be like a drug to an autistic child.

    When he was about 4-5 years old I found this article. I took the article to my doctor and he said that he would test it. So I had to take about 3 months to not give him any gluten and no dairy products in his diet. This was hard to do. But we managed.

    After the 3 months, we went back to the doctor and, in the office, the doctor gave my son a pee test. This turned out normal.

    Then the doctor went and got an 8-ounce glass of milk, the kind with hardly anything in it – skim milk with no extra fats and such the kind that really tastes nasty anyway almost like water – and filled the 8-ounce glass 1/8th of the way full and gave it to my son. He had us wait in the office for half an hour and the doctor went and took the pee test (the one for drugs) on my son.

    When the doctor came back with the result he said not to give this kid any dairy products. The result was, and this is for my 4-5 year old, he said it was the equivalent of giving an adult a full shot of cocaine.

    I was floored. Then it scared me. Who would have thought that milk could be a drug? But for most autistic children, this seems to be a fact. Dairy products are drugs to these kids.

    The doctor said that he had not heard of this and later found out that if he had taken the Measles/mumps/rubella shot that he would have the same reaction to gluten. The reason for this is because they put dairy products and eggs into that shot. This gives the same reaction as the milk. So from that day on I stopped all dairy products. Now my son is almost 20 years old and has graduated from high school, is an Eagle Scout, and will be graduating from college in a few years. So if your son/daughter has Autism, you may want to try it.

    When my son was young he had the head banging so bad that we had to get him a football helmet to help keep his head from being cracked, try this out. Because now my son, now with Asperger’s, is living a normal healthy life. It is worth a try.

    Anyway, just figured I would try to help someone with this post. You can believe it or not. It worked for my son.

    I am not sure if this would help you, but I am trying to let as many people that I know and put it on everyone’s Autism site about this. I have since found out that more than 90% of the Autistic children who are taken off of dairy products have a normal life and can live on their own as a responsible adult.

    Sometimes I wonder how many of the so-called drug addicts that are in the jails are really people who are allergic to milk. Actually, I guess it would not be an allergy it is a mind altering drug for these kids. So I wonder why people think of it as an allergy.

    1. Thank you for the great advice, Wanda. I posted the importance of a gluten-free diet on my Nutritional Management page. It works wonders, indeed! All the best to you and your son. 🙂

  4. Hi Adel.

    This is a really interesting and captivating text. It touched my heart immediately when I started reading.

    Having kids of my own, I can relate to the pain, when you are told that your child has a diagnosis. Our children carry so much of our hopes and dreams, they are what we live for, and their happiness is paramount.
    Getting a message like that is excruciating, but eventually, we learn to accept it, and this is where we start working towards making the most of the situations we are in.
    I have worked with children within the autistic spectrum, in a school in Denmark, and these kids are so fantastic and talented. So what if they’re different?
    The one thing all of these children had in common, was that it was impossible not to love them. All that people need, is time and information, so that they can better understand them, and this is where people like you, who do excellent work, sharing your knowledge and experience on the subject.

    Keep up the great work.

    PS.: Did you know that Einstein and Mozart were both autistic?

    1. Children on the autistic spectrum are indeed wonderful and talented. All they need is our love and acceptance and understanding. Thank you, Ossur, for your support and encouraging words. May you continue to support these children and help me in my advocacy in raising world autism awareness and understanding! 🙂

  5. Aw, Adel, my heart goes out to you. I am 43, and I had my son at the age of 40. Fortunately he is perfectly healthy and has no learning issues. I would love to have a second child, but my husband feels it is just too risky to have a child at our age (he is 52). Is autism like downs syndrome – does the risk go up as the parents age?

    1. Thank you for your query. Parental Age might be a risk factor but there is an increase likelihood if you have a familial tendency or genetic predisposition. Please read my page on Getting the Diagnosis. I also include a link there that will help you learn more about the causes of autism. Hope this will clear your mind from all the worries and questions you have in mind. All the best!

    1. Putting my personal experience into words is a hard task but the purpose is worthwhile and outweighs every effort. Thank you, Ella, for your support in my advocacy.

  6. Adel,

    I have to say that I absolutely love your site! Thank you for allowing us into your world! I think it’s great that you spreading awareness this way. So many people can and will benefit from your site!

    #autismlove #autismlife #autismsupport #autismawareness

    1. Thank you, Keisha. It’s good that you find my site helpful and informative.Let’s help each other in raising world autism awareness and understanding.

  7. Dear Adel,
    I found this site is very useful. It is so wonderful to have all the relevant information in one place,and also sharing your own experience and emotions.
    This gave me so much knowledge & understanding about ASD. Thank you so much for all your hard work.
    I hope to forward this link to my friends & colleagues.
    I really appreciate what you are doing & wish you all the very best for everything you do.

    1. Thank you, Aruna for taking the time to read the pages and posts of this site. By forwarding my link to your friends and colleagues would mean helping a lot of parents and families who have a child or a member of the family who has autism to be informed of the many ways they could help their child. You would be doing me a favor by helping me in my mission in raising world autism awareness and understanding. All the best in all your future endeavors!

  8. I find your website very useful for those children affected with autism.
    You are doing a good job! Thank you and God bless you.

    1. You are welcome,Lynn. To be aware and to understand what autism is all that they need so that they could live independently in today’s society.

    1. You’re welcome, Barbara. Please help me in my advocacy of raising world awareness and understanding of autism.

  9. Thanks for sharing your journey. I don’t know much about autism. I have a friend whose daughter has autism. She is one of the most amazing kids I have ever met. So intellligent …it seems she is in a body that doesn’t match her mind. She’s beautiful. She’s different. All she wants is acceptance and not for anyone to try to change her. I’m looking forward to meeting John one day.

    1. Thank you, Heidi. You’re right! They are amazing and intelligent children just like my son, John. They are a savant in particular areas which caught their interest. They most likely to focus on this area alone and excel on it with a high degree of accuracy. John excels in mental maths, computers, and general knowledge. Everything that catches his attention, he is most likely to focus on these. I was able to see and look through his world thus allowing me to teach him in a way that he could understand. I was able to enhance his learning and focused on his strength ( mental maths and computers). He could add and multiply 2 to 3 digit numbers with the same 2 to 3 digit numbers with speed and accuracy. It’s truly incredible! I agree with you that we should not change them as they are but give them more love and support which they truly need. We could learn from them as much as they could learn from us. They need to be accepted, loved and understood in today’s society. These are the reasons why I created this site.

  10. Autism seems to be a growing concern nowadays. With the numbers of cases increasing, it is so important that there are sites like this to help others learn to handle the vagaries of this disorder.

    I believe your site will be a great resource for parents with autistic children. I am going to be sharing your site with some friends of mine who have an autistic son.

    1. Thank you, Sue. Autism is a growing concern nowadays. Research studies show that boys are affected more than girls. They still don’t have a strong basis why this is the case, but it has something to do with genes. Please read my post on ‘Might be in our Genes’. Two in our family have autism. My son and my nephew and they are both boys. it doesn’t matter if boys are much affected than girls, what matters now is how we would be able to reach out to the world to raise awareness and understanding of autism. Thank you for helping me in my advocacy by sharing my site with your friend whose son has autism.

  11. Fantastic job Adel, it’s great for people to have more awareness over these special kids. I personally know of some autistic kids and like you mentioned with special care through diet and therapies and lots of support they were able to manage

    1. Thank you, Bettina. We all need to be aware how difficult for a child with autism for not being able to express properly what they are feeling inside. They wanted to be like any other children but they find it hard to express themselves. They need all the love and support we can give to them. Awareness, acceptance and understanding are the three things that they wanted to tell the world. This is one of the reasons why I created this site. I wanted to raise awareness, acceptance and understanding for the public about the impact of having autism in the family.
      Hope you will help me in share this advocacy.

  12. Adel
    Your website just brought back a flood of memories with one of my closet friends. When she announced her first pregnancy to everyone – we were all excited for her, and could not understand for the next two years why she pretty much disappeared – my calls went unanswered – which was very concerning given our friendship …

    Until she called one day – and shared her story of her son being autistic. Your story hits on every point she experienced. Its very brave of you to share you story – I can only imagine the benefits my friend may have had, knowing there was someone with the same issues.

    I wish for you and your family continued strength…

    1. Thank you for visiting my site and for your concern. If you still have contact with your close friend, you could refer her to my site. I will be posting regularly from now on about 2 posts per week with lots of information on ways to help raise an autistic child. My son has progressed well now. He is already 16 yrs. old and learning his way towards personal independence. I just want to know if you have for instance an autistic child, what information would you like to know to help your child progress? Please let me know. Thank you.

  13. Thank you for putting up this site. I have no doubts that there are many families out there looking for answers for this challenge. I have no experience with autism, until I visited the site, all I knew about it was what I watched on TV. After viewing this site, I now realize the world can fall apart for most people who have to deal with autism. Thank you again for creating this site, it’s not only an eye opener for me, but a very helpful resource for others!

    1. Autism affects many families around the world. It is a hidden cry that wants to shout out and say,”Please help me!”. I do not want to be like this! I just couldn’t express myself. I’m no different to anyone of you. I just want to be understood. This is the reason why I created this site. To raise awareness and understanding to people affected with autism and their families.

  14. I am happy to been able to view your website, I also have a son with autism so I can relate to all you have gone through. I have wrote some articles myself about my experience with a autism child, wish you the best with your website its a winner for sure.

    1. Hi, Jeff. Thank you for your wishes and encouragement. Although it’s been a journey of struggles, my son had taught me how to be strong, to be patient and persistent in life. He also taught me how to appreciate and be grateful for everything, big or small.

  15. That is beautiful. I am tearing up right now reading this, I absolutely love that you want to dedicate a website to living with an autistic child. You sound like a wonderful person. I absolutely love that quote at the end, it is absolutely perfect.

    Although it’s not Autism, when my daughter was born they said she had 50/50 chance that she had Down’s Syndrome, and they never said anything about that when I was pregnant with her. We were shocked, but said to each other:

    “Whether she does, we will love her just the same. God knows that we can make it through any obstacles with her if she does have it, because we both have good hearts and will treat her with the same amount of love either way.”

    She ended up getting results as not having Down’s Syndrome but this really opened my eyes to see every child is a blessing. Thank you for writing this. 🙂

    1. Thank you, Rachel. It’s really hard for parents to know that their child has a developmental problem but we should not consider this as a problem. Instead, we should take it as a challenge and a gift from God. A challenge because it will help us to grow and become a better parent. A gift because every child is a blessing from above. I have learned a lot from my son. He taught me the meaning of the words, patience, persistence and hard work. My outlook on life has improved and I have become a positive and a better person.

  16. Hi Adel,
    My sister’s son is also diagnosed with ASD as a small boy. He is now 18 years old, behaves like any young men. In fact, he helps to do his own cleaning and goes to college by himself. I truly believe your son will be even better when he grow up, under your care.

    Life is never perfect for everyone, but it is the spirit and the way we approach it that matter. You are doing a great contribution to humanity by setting this Website to bring awareness of ASD to all parents.

    All the best with my blessings.


    1. Thank you, Sadie. John has progressed so well. He is now 16 years old and is already keeping up with the changes. He is now on his way towards gaining personal independence. He travels on his own to college every Wednesday. He helps me around the house by washing the dishes, cleaning the house, tidying or folding his clothes and hanging washed clothes on the clothesline. He can also go to the shops on his own to buy food. He knows money so I don’t need to worry about the change, LOL. He is starting to learn how to cook now. He can do all of these independently and some with minimal help. I believe that he is already on his way towards gaining total personal independence.

  17. Hello
    Thanks for letting me read about you, as a visitor to a website, l want to have a feeling im talking to a real person and what you wrote made me feel like l have already met you in person.
    Raising an autistic child must be hard, my full respect to anyone who does it as l have seen first hand how challenging it can be.
    Looking forward to reading more of your posts.

    1. Thank you for visiting my site. It’s really hard to raise an autistic child. It takes a lot of patience, perseverance and hard work. But to see your child progress with his communication, social interaction and behaviour in the long run outweighs all the hard work that you have experienced. My son has progressed a lot since and is continuing to progress until this time.

  18. I think you’re doing a beautiful thing here teaching people exactly how to live with an autistic child. So many people will find this a valuable resource and you’re a saint for making it!

    I’m thrilled that you’re doing such a great thing for so many parents out there with nowhere to turn but the internet!

    1. Thank you for your valuable comment. By sharing my experiences with parents who has an autism in the family, I would be able to help them cope and be able to share their experience as well with other parents who need help. Spreading awareness is the key to help these children and instead of treating them special

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