This is a question which every parent would want to know about his child. What does it feel like being autistic?
My son, John did not speak until the age of 3. He only knew the words, Mama, and Dada. When he wanted something, he will take my hand and point to the thing that he wanted me to get. It’s a bit frustrating to see that my beautiful little boy cannot speak a word except Mama and Dada. When he wanted our attention, he will bang his head on the wall out of frustration. He could not maintain an eye contact whenever I talked to him and seems pre-occupied on his own play.
When John turned 7 years old, he became focused and has a great attention to detail. I remember that he used to ask questions about the direction of the clouds. He will then tell me if it was moving or not and in what particular direction. He could see unusual street signs and if there was a possibility that it might rain just by looking at the clouds. He is very observant. Mental Maths is his strength. He could add three digit numbers by another three digit numbers with speed and accuracy. He likes converting hours to minutes and minutes to seconds. We could talk about these topics all day without him getting bored not unless it was not his area of interest. He likes routine and gets angry when there is a break in his routine. He always flaps his hand whenever he gets excited or happy and always repeat words for constant reassurance. He always giggles on his own when he remembered something funny that he had watched before. He takes things literally most of the time and does not know how to see social cues and gestures. He makes screeching and sometimes loud noises whenever he gets frustrated.
All these things were manifested when John was still little but mostly have disappeared now, that he is 17 years old. The only thing that he does until now is to giggle whenever he sees and remembers something funny. He still takes things literally at times.
As a parent, we need to understand why they are behaving in such a way so that we could better understand them. We have to put our world into their world. Sensory issues are their greatest enemies and they are trying to tell us that their senses are overloaded with what they see, hear and feel. It will be hard for them to cope unless we will give them our love and support. If you need some more information to better understand our role, please click this
Watch Temple Grandin talks about her experience being autistic, from not being able to speak when she was little until she became a renowned author and professor.
I sincerely hope these insights have helped in some way, and welcome your questions should there be any.